It's that time of year when we all start thinking about New Year's resolutions and goals. A great question is how can I live and lead with my professional tribe with more intention? Here are three tips to get you started!
Over the years, I've seen it all - strong goals, weak goals, confusing goals, employees with no goals, and employees with 15 goals. Employees with goals for projects that have been canceled. Employees with goals who understand the strategy and employees who don't understand the strategy. I have also heard time and time again leaders sigh in frustration that people are just not working and thinking strategically.
A global research study I read the other day said that only 10% of employees understand their company's strategy, and only 40% of managers clearly understand it.
I have coached many bewildered employees who want to do their best, but they need clarification on where they are heading and how they can support the organization's...
A year would not be complete without reflection. I have found that sometimes, the most significant growth opportunities are discovered when we take the time to examine the past.
I want to start this reflection with a thank you. Thank you to all my vendors, sponsors, clients, and partners. Thank you to my tribe of monthly accelerators (you know who you are) who meet with me and share thoughts and ideas to help me grow! Thank you to my family and personal tribes, who have supported me and given me quiet and space when needed.
In 2021 my word was freedom, and my learning was to remember that true freedom is found when we release ourselves from the need to do it all.
When we truly rely on and relax into the things that matter most - faith, family, and our tribes - only then do we experience true freedom.
So let's get started; here's a recap of my 2022 in Review:
Three choices we can make to create healthier tribes at work
This month on my social media platforms, I will be talking about the different types of group tribes that we belong to. For this blog post, I want to delve deeper into some of the dynamics in our professional tribes, specifically the work tribe. As I sat down to write, I want to be frank; I was a little frustrated. You see, there were five of them, not one, not two, but five. Five hurt, disappointed, angry leaders and team members who had either walked away, were about to walk away, worn down, churning in the situation, or were on the verge of giving up.
Every day worldwide, millions of people wake up and head to work. People often become part of a work tribe out of necessity. Someone has to pay bills and put food on the table. In contrast, some enjoy the thrill of competition, the rush that comes from hitting targets and achieving results. Perhaps, they love the idea of making...
You can do whatever you want in life. But when all is said and done, is it beneficial?
Life has an interesting way of helping us grow. Every day we make thousands of little choices. Do I wake up now, or do I hit the snooze button? Should I exercise or not exercise? Do I wear a white shirt or a blue shirt? Shall I gather the team or skip the team meeting? Should I carve out time for that conversation I have been putting off with my direct report, or should I clear out my email box? Every day in our life and leadership, we have the right to choose.
The other day, I talked to an employee who was thinking about making a shift to a new organization. When I asked why they said, "I am thinking about making the shift because leadership is simply refusing to listen." "What do you mean?" I asked, "tell me more?" They shared with me that the pandemic had placed pressure on some and given others in their organization pause to reset their priorities. What they had accepted...
"Good Morning. How's your day going?" I asked.
"It's been such a hectic day, and I've not gotten much done. I've been busy doing HR stuff all morning!"
"Really, tell me about your day so far."
"Well, I had an interview this morning, then met with an employee to discuss an issue, completed a few performance review discussions, held a team meeting, and now I am here meeting with you in HR."
I looked and him with a sly grin and said, "Oh, you've been doing leadership stuff all day."
I get it. As leaders, you have a list, and it seems that no matter how hard or efficiently you work, it never ends. However, no matter the length of your list, if you sit in a leadership seat, perhaps it is time to reconsider how you prioritize and categorize your day.
Like the leader I chatted with on that bright sunny morning, you can think of the time you spend with your team as "HR stuff." Or you can shift your perspective and see it as a critical...
The other day I was driving in my car, in silence. It was a forced silence. In a world that constantly bombards us with content and demand, we have lost the ability to sit in silence. So I made myself do it, and as I sat there, I was uncomfortable. I wanted to make a call, listen to the music, anything to give my mind some input. But I forced myself and sat there in silence. At that moment, the traffic slowed to a standstill. I just sat there, in the silence, looking at the water and then up to the sky.
Flying about half a mile from my car was a bird, with no effort, just gliding. Curious to see how long he could glide before he would have to start flapping his wings, I sat and watched. I must have watched for at least 5 minutes. He never moved a muscle - he just glided through the air.
I decided to glance around, and I noticed that the trees were having a different kind of day, unlike the bird. The trees lower to the ground were rustling gently, and one big palm tree...
A few months ago, I was talking to a business acquaintance about how they could help people of color, especially women feel more included? One of the solutions was to connect at lunches and other social gatherings.
Listen, I won't knock it. I think that is absolutely a start, but it is only a start. Inviting someone different from you to lunch or the business table is never a bad thing - in fact, I recommend it. However, here is what I have learned as I travel this life journey. Inclusion cannot always be deepened at social gatherings or light lunches. When we grow up differently - different family cultures, educational experiences, social norms - there is very little on our natural life's journeys that would inspire or compel us to connect.
Social divides exist, and I don't believe in all instances they are sinister. Perhaps I grew...
Most of us are frustrated when that "thing" we want is seemingly out of our reach or the yes that we want is a no. In less than 24 hours, I encountered it twice. My recurring back injury was radiating, and instead of going for a long relaxing walk, I spent the afternoon lying horizontally.
In the wee hours of the morning, when I could not sleep because of the pain, I started pacing the house and noticed my daughter's lights on. As soon as I cracked the door, I quickly found out that she was in the middle of her own crisis. It was after midnight, and the app that she was using to edit her video assignment kept crashing.
I tried to comfort her, but in the moment, she echoed the exasperation that I was feeling about my back. Why, why, why! Not now! I don't have time for this!
I have found that life with inopportune precision will hand us - whys, not now - I don't have time for this - on an almost daily, sometimes, hourly basis. In the end, the key is to shorten our periods of...
It's that time of year when we start to think about new year's resolutions and how we’re doing with them. I enjoy the process of planning, and I believe in having a vision and setting goals.
However, it occurred to me the other day that there is one thing that we often struggle with that gets in the way when it comes to living our best and most productive lives, but first, a quick story.
I love to walk; it's my favorite way to connect with my tribe, create and relax. A good walk on a brisk cool morning, for me, there is nothing better. This past week I walked three times. The first day my back felt tight, and I kept thinking I really should stretch. However, I walked in the door and quickly forgot, even though the tightness never really went away.
The second day, I walked with a friend, I was so distracted by the great conversation that I forgot to stretch, and it was a half-hearted stretch when I remembered. Not a total fix, but it did...
My word for 2022 is freedom. In my exploration of what freedom means, I discovered that when most of us think of freedom, we think of it as personal, physical, political, or psychological. Freedom to act, be physically free, speak, and be who we are. However, as I delved into the word, I discovered more.
What if we thought about freedom as a catalyst for change? In nature, a plant must be exposed to sunlight and water to have the freedom to grow. When we understand our annual physical results, we have the freedom to make choices that impact our health in positive ways.
When it comes to tribes, when we shift our mindset, the way we think about and show up in our relationships, we have the freedom to be more open and thrive. In leadership, when we share our strategies and goals, we provide our teams with the freedom to execute and be creative. When we take control of our schedules, we have the freedom to work on the projects that matter. When we rest, we...